It’s not Monday, but I had to write this one out and post it. So we’ve got a Wednesday diary here. Not quite the same ring to it, but it will do.
I was looking on the internet for some good quotes to write up for fillers for my Instagram the other day. I was looking specifically for shorter quotes with powerful meanings. It wasn’t long until I read a three worded quote by Joseph Campbell.
“Follow Your Bliss”
If this doesn’t sum up my goal in life I’m not sure what else does.
While growing up, my parents always encouraged me to not follow money, but to follow what I love. Whether I make a million a year or a dollar in a year, as long as I love what I’m doing, I will be happy. Perhaps it’s not practical advice for most (hello bills!) but I think we should all follow or pursue at least ONE thing that we are passionate about.
After I had little E, I went through a period of time where pretty much, I thought my life was over. My life was consumed by this tiny person constantly needing me for food, comfort, changing, warmth; and I felt like I my sense of self was being lost in this whirlwind of baby-world. I watched my friends start to make advances in their careers, achieving goals and travelling around the world. I felt like I was going to be bound to my child for the rest of my life. I started to feel jealousy towards D for being able to go to work and do more social things. I wasn’t doing anything for me. I had given up on my passions in life because I felt like I just didn’t have the time.
Now, don’t get me wrong, I LOVE Little E. She is a bright beautiful little light in my life. But, I’ve come to realise, motherhood does not define me. I am still my own person with hopes and dreams and loves, and almost a year later I am realising that I CAN still do those things. I have to MAKE the time.
My life wasn’t over, it was just different, and I could still find passions and do them, I just needed to make more of an effort to do them.
I started with blogging. I had wanted to start a blog for years before I finally did it. I started when I was pregnant but I didn’t start to take it seriously until a couple of months ago. I was inspired by a friend of mine who had started her own hairdressing business. She unashamedly shared her business on her facebook and very quickly posted picture upon picture of her work. I was also inspired by another friend who approached me to join her team for an online business. Although I declined, I was still struck by how confidently she approached me and unappolagetically told me about her business. So I picked up my blog again and shared it with people.
My second passion is music. Many readers probably don’t know this about me, but I studied music at a university level, majoring in voice. I booked a couple of gigs but stopped altogether because my confidence took a massive hit when I became pregnant. When Little E was 4 months old, I stared going to a monthly jam night. It took three months before I got up on stage and sang. I hadn’t sang in over a year and I loved the feeling of being back on stage. Fast forward to now and I have booked payed gigs with my own band.
My third is fashion. Ever since I was in highschool I wanted to be a fashion designer. I wanted to sew my own clothes and be one of those cool quirky fashionistas with one-of-a-kind pieces that I would eventually start making for other people. I finally saved up enough to buy and sewing machine recently. With the tools, my creative juices have been flowing. I don’t have enough time to keep up with all the pieces I want to create but I will eventually get them all done.
There are other things I’d like to do. Like writing. I’d like to write a book. Last night I came into our room and looked at D and said “I’m going to write a book”. I believe I will. When I started blogging, it activated something inside me that allowed me to believe I could do my other passions.
“If I can blog, why can’t I do music too? Why not make my own clothes? Why can’t I write a book?”
What I’ve learned is that you don’t have just ONE passion. You can have many. There are so many amazing things you can do and achieve in this life so why limit yourself to just one thing? Who says you can’t be an aeroplane flying, scuba diving instructor, visual artist, hiking opera singer? NO ONE! Because if each one of those things are your bliss then FOLLOW THEM! Follow your bliss and don’t let anyone discourage you.
Are you following your bliss? If not, why not? I’d love to help you find it and encourage you to follow it, whatever it may be.